“The way a person talks about other people behind their backs… is a good and reliable indicator of what they can do behind your back too. Wisely choose who you confide in.”
We all know of, or had at some point or another in our lives, that one person who likes to talk about other people’s situations… ESPECIALLY when they are not present to defend themselves or it’s not really their story to tell in the first place… And what’s worse you may have been sitting there thinking… “aren’t you friends with this person?” or “why are you telling me this? How does this affect you exactly?”. Yet you sit through it. You have either contributed to it by asking questions, or have sat there and said nothing.
I have learnt this lesson the hard way many times over.
The first time being back in my high school years, which was well and truly over 20 years ago and probably as recent as about a year ago. It’s not a lesson that i think you can ever learn completely, not unless of course you are willing to completely shut off from the world and willing to live a life of complete solitude. However if you at least learn to wisely choose the people who you decide to confide in, by listening to how they talk about others when they are not around, this will give you a better insight into their habits BEFORE you give them any of YOUR personal information which COULD very well be the conversation they have with the next person.
Choose wisely!
